Yearly Archives: 2010

Navigating Grief

Grief is a mysterious creature. It lurks unnoticed in the dark corners of our hearts only to be un-leashed by the simplest of provocations…listening to a song, looking at a picture, watching a movie, a brief thought or memory flashes through our minds reminding us of our loss. All of a sudden, a torrent of tears wells up within and comes tumbling out, unannounced. In amazement, we wonder, “Where did that come from? I thought I was done grieving.” Just when we feel we have grieved all we can, there is still more.

There is no rhyme or reason to the grieving process. It is different for every person. What remains the same is our choice about how we navigate it. We can express our grief and thus allow it to open our hearts, freeing us to fully live. Or, afraid of experiencing another loss, we can close our hearts and hide from life. Now, not only have we lost someone we love, we die inside. Our creative life force energy is sucked dry causing us to feel anxious, depressed, tired and unfulfilled. Trudging through the day, we wonder, “What’s the point of living?”

Grief has been a constant companion on […]

By |December 18th, 2010|Grief and Loss|

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The Heart Rock Story

Cruising on I-90 form Washington back to Colorado, John and I are ready for rest after eight hours of driving. We stop at a campground with easy access to the freeway, just outside of Missoula, Montana. Fortunately, the campground is practically empty. We set up camp among tall ponderosa pines and bushes tucked away near a creek. It is the perfect respite from our long trip. Enjoying the solitude and beauty of our site, we decide to stay an extra day.

Sitting on a large rock at the edge of the creek, I allow myself to slow down and be in the moment. I notice small butterflies, bees, bugs and ants busy doing their thing. I take in the gurgling sound of the creek, the blue sky, and the warmth of the sun. At the height of the hot summer day, John and I don our bathing suits. We frolic and play in the creek, dunking our heads under the cold rushing water, and skipping rocks like we did when we were kids.

I lean down to pick up a rock and enjoy the way it feels in my hand. I notice its shape, a heart. It has cracks and white […]

By |December 18th, 2010|Grief and Loss|

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Trust the Moment!

When we say YES to life and decide to follow our hearts and our dreams, we don’t need to know how we are going to get from point A to point B. We just need to say YES and keep saying YES in the moment, allowing each moment to unfold and show us the way.

Recently, I set the intention to speak to audiences from my heart without using an outline. This past week, I have been practicing with our Say YES to Life events in Denver. At the first event, I made a brief outline, but then quickly let it go as the evening went on. At the second event, I made another brief outline. This time, I let it go at the beginning of the talk since Boadachia (my co-facilitator) decided to start first. I was forced to improvise and create a transition from what she spoke about. At the third event, I did not plan anything, although I brought some music and props to use which had worked well at the other events. During this event, we were in the flow the entire time. I felt more connected and in a space of love with the people […]

By |September 24th, 2010|Personal growth|

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The Giving Challenge – Day 17

The first day I started the challenge, I was in a state of grief and despair about the state of my business. Since the beginning of the year, it has spiraled downward and I have made very little income. Feeling helpless and like a failure, I cried while taking a shower.  Shortly after getting out of the shower, the phone rang. It was someone I had left a message for over a week ago regarding potential business and thought I would never hear from. I smiled feeling hopeful again.

Later that day, sitting in a coffee shop, journaling about my predicament, someone I knew walked in. We had a meaningful exchange and she had some helpful suggestions about how I might be able to grow my business. It felt like the Universe was reaching out to me. I consciously received the gifts and began to feel lighter and even more hopeful. Then, I met with a new friend who not only treated me to lunch but helped me to receive more clarity about why my business was slow and what I could do differently. My heart opened as we shared and my gratitude for life was restored.

As my conscious gift […]

By |September 17th, 2010|Personal growth|

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The Gift of Giving

Are you someone who gives on a regular basis? Are you conscious of how and when you give? After reading Cami Walker’s book, 29 Gifts: How a Month of Giving Can Change your Life, I felt inspired to participate in the Giving Challenge…giving away 29 gifts in 29 days. In the book, Cami chronicles her return to health and happiness through her own 29-day giving process. Diagnosed with multiple sclerosis at the age of thirty three, just one month after getting married, her disease progressed rapidly. She frequently visited the emergency room and was barely able to walk. Addicted to medications, she was depressed and stressed out when an African medicine woman recommended she give away 29 gifts in 29 days. Within that month, her life changed dramatically.

Participating in the Giving Challenge, I have become more aware of the benefits of giving for myself and others. So far, as of day 12, I’ve noticed that when I give a heart-felt gift, it transforms me. I feel joyful and alive inside. The more thoughtful the gift, the more transformed I feel and the greater affect it has on the receiver. For example, if I walk the dog or do the […]

By |September 14th, 2010|Personal growth|

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Practice Seeing the Truth

By Karen Mehringer
 
“Enlightenment is but a recognition, not a change at all.”
– A Course in Miracles
 

Many wisdom traditions teach that to be enlightened, we must recognize our own true nature as Divine and see it in our brothers and sisters. Therefore, enlightenment is not something to be attained, but a state of remembering who we already are as Divine love and light, as one with God and each other. The most direct path to enlightenment is to see all beings, including our selves, as pure and innocent. When we see the God essence in another, it reinforces it within ourselves and the love and light within us expands.

Many of us have had moments of such revelation…seeing the Divine beauty in another and in the perfection of life. These moments are blissful, but often fleeting because the ego is strong. It does not want us to remember the truth of who we are. It wants us to believe we are separate and therefore “special.” Thus, it takes practice to see beyond the illusion of separation to the truth of oneness.

As we practice seeing the truth, amazing and miraculous things begin to happen. For example, the other day, as my car was stopped […]

By |September 13th, 2010|Spiritual Awakening|

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Play Like a Child

In mid-August, there was still snow on the ground. But, fortunately for me, we were experiencing a heat wave, so at 9,000 feet above sea level, even though it was already 5pm, it was still 80 degrees outside.

“Burr! It’s freezing!” I shouted as I slowly stepped into the glacial lake water, the soft mud squishing between my toes. My friends cheered me on from the shore as I held my breath and dunked my head under water.

Exhilarated, I swam calmly across the placid lake, creating small ripples with each breast stroke. Then, my inner child kicked into gear. Pretending to be a dolphin, I swirled and twirled around in circles, keeping my head above water. I also dove up and down, using my legs to propel me forward. Gleefully, I laughed out loud and encouraged my friends to come in. “You’ve got to try this! It’s amazing. But, despite my pleas, they remained dry, on shore. This was my special moment – a ritual I had chosen to help anchor in my intention for experiencing more fun and play in my life.

As adults we rarely allow ourselves to experience the freedom and bliss that comes from playing like kids. […]

By |August 31st, 2010|Personal growth|

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Say YES to Life!

I recently watched the movie, Field of Dreams. It amazes me…it doesn’t seem to matter how many times I watch it, I am always inspired. What’s so inspiring to me is that Kevin Costner’s character hears a voice…”Build it and he will come.” He doesn’t know whose voice it is, who will come, or what he is supposed to build, but he remains open to the voice and eventually has a vision of building a baseball field. Even though it doesn’t make any logical sense, he follows his heart and builds the field.

Despite financial set backs and almost losing his farm, he continues to listen to the voice and follow his heart. In the end, miracle after miracle happens. Not only does he experience financial prosperity and get to keep the farm, but all who are involved realize their dreams.

When my husband, John, quit his job in October, he didn’t know what he wanted to do next for work. He just knew that he wasn’t happy and his heart told him it was time to leave. Since then, he has been following the bread crumbs so to speak…listening to his intuitive nudges. As a result, he has started a […]

By |July 21st, 2010|Personal growth|

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Speaking My Truth

I am a co-author in an anthology being released August 25th titled, Speaking Your Truth: Courageous Stories from Inspiring Women. Here is a blog entry I wrote about what it means to me to speak my truth:

Speaking my truth means that I share honestly and openly what is in my heart…what I think and believe and how I feel. In order to speak my truth, I need to be honest with myself first. Is what I am about to say coming from my heart, from a place of love, from the center of who I am? Or, am I speaking from fear or anger? Are my words an emotional response to pain from my past? When speaking my truth, I always want to center myself in the present moment and in love.

Sometimes it can be scary to speak my truth, as I fear being judged and rejected. But, more often than not, when I risk being know, I feel liberated. Sharing my truth with others heals me and frees them to share the truth of who they are in turn. I love what Marianne Williamson wrote in A Return to Love, “And as we let our own light shine, […]

Allowing Prosperity

The news is grim…the Gulf Coast oil spill, earthquakes, tsunamis, volcanoes, financial loss, etc. No wonder many of us walk around with heavy hearts, feeling sad, and scared about the future. A pervasive fear consciousness permeates our society. But, this isn’t the truth of who we are. We were created from God’s source of never-ending love. It is our birthright to be prosperous, to experience abundance…a feeling of fullness, fulfillment, love and joy. At all times, we are able to tap into this infinite Source. The question is…do we allow ourselves to tap in and receive? Or, do we block the flow of our own prosperity?

There are many ways we block the flow of receiving prosperity. As women, especially, we were taught to put others needs before our own and that giving love is more important than receiving it. This pattern diminishes our vital life force energy and can lead to illness. In Louise Hay’s book, You Can Heal Your Life, she equates breast problems with “A refusal to nourish the self. Putting everyone else first…” Problems occur when we give without allowing ourselves to receive. We need to be willing to receive in order to give from a […]

By |May 26th, 2010|Personal growth|

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