Transforming Grief Blog

Learning to Value Myself

Happy New Year! I love this time of year. The days are getting longer. The busyness of the holidays is behind us. I feel alive with new possibilities and am inspired to create anew.

As part of my process in getting clear about what I intend to create in 2018, I took time out to review my growth over the past year. What did I learn in 2017? What did I appreciate about myself? How did I heal and transform? Instead of focusing on my outward accomplishments, I decided to focus on my inner journey. I feel inspired to share the highlights with you as this review process was fortifying and empowering. It helped me to anchor in the changes, and set intentions for continued growth.

One of the greatest areas of growth for me this year was learning to value myself more. My nature is to be a peace keeper (I am a 9 on the Enneagram). I tend to lose myself in my relationships and prioritize other’s needs before my own.  My pattern has been to play small and not take up too much space. Consciously choosing to break this pattern has been a process.

I took a step to break […]

Tools for Transforming Depression

If you find yourself feeling unmotivated, lacking energy for life, grumpy or irritable, you may be depressed. Depression is typically caused by suppressed anger, at the root of which is the feeling of powerlessness. When we give our power away, our creative life force energy becomes stifled and “depressed” and we are no longer in the flow of manifesting abundance. We are unable to be receptive to creative solutions and new possibilities. Imagine a dam, and how it blocks the flow of water. This is what happens to our energy when we suppress our anger. When not allowed to flow, not only do we experience depression, but physical symptoms as well like illness or pain.

The following is a step-by-step process to assist you in transforming depression and reclaiming your power so you can engage more fully in life:

Acknowledge your anger. Give it a voice by writing about it. What does it have to say? Start by writing, “What I am most angry about is…” Write non-stop for ten minutes without lifting your pen. If you have trouble identifying your […]

Speaking My Truth

I am a co-author in an anthology being released August 25th titled, Speaking Your Truth: Courageous Stories from Inspiring Women. Here is a blog entry I wrote about what it means to me to speak my truth:

Speaking my truth means that I share honestly and openly what is in my heart…what I think and believe and how I feel. In order to speak my truth, I need to be honest with myself first. Is what I am about to say coming from my heart, from a place of love, from the center of who I am? Or, am I speaking from fear or anger? Are my words an emotional response to pain from my past? When speaking my truth, I always want to center myself in the present moment and in love.

Sometimes it can be scary to speak my truth, as I fear being judged and rejected. But, more often than not, when I risk being know, I feel liberated. Sharing my truth with others heals me and frees them to share the truth of who they are in turn. I love what Marianne Williamson wrote in A Return to Love, “And as we let our own light shine, […]